So right in the middle of posting about “choosing Joy”, I was given a perfect opportunity to practice it. \Warning: we are not perfect :o) We are a continuing work in progress. Truth: Chaos was the word in our house for a few minutes the other night… I would be a liar if I tried to pretend that our house was always perfect. lol. The kids were not happy with each other, and I was not happy with them. Enough said. I would LOVE for the house to always be in order, and for my kids to never bother each other. I have amazing kids who are for sure going to be nation shakers for Jesus, but at times I feel like I am just “living on a prayer” – with hope that I am teaching them right. I mess up at times and even my temper flares. Even though we are Pastors, we are real people and desperately need the Holy Spirit working in our lives to help us temper our attitudes. But our trials develop Godly Character right… so we must learn how to overcome the battles of the day & “keep our temper”.
Temperature. : degree of hotness or coldness measured on a definite scale.
If something is tempered it is : having the elements mixed in satisfying proportions : temperate.
I am working hard to teach my children how to be Godly, have right attitudes, and treat each other with kindness & not “lose their temper”. I need to be honest in my evaluation and expectations of myself in these areas before I can ever expect my kids to know what to do. Here is a quick illustration I gave my kids tonight when dealing with our Hot tempers. Our emotions are like a thermostat. They can go from freezing cold, to super hot. The most comfortable temperature is a balance between these two. the trick is how to get it there:
I used this moment of chaos in our home as a teachable moment to explain to the kids about what to do when we get a “too hot temper”. After everything settled down I asked the kids what they learned to do:
Here is their answer: I guess my efforts are working after all.
thermometer : What to do when you get mad: by my kids.
2- have self-control
5- have patience
6- ask for forgiveness
7- do to others what you would want them to do to you.
8- take a time out
9- “you know when you are mad at someone and you just feel like punching them out, but then you just have that feeling in your heart that tells you to stop”…. listen to your heart aka: the Holy Spirit
10- shake it off
11- eat something or take a nap- when you are grumpy it usually means you are hungry or tired.
12- love one another – do something nice for that person instead of being mean like you want to.
13- flashback to a good memory and think about it until your attitude changes
14- stop talking and listen
15- talk to a leader. (Parent, pastor, counselor.)
I think these things about sum it up :o) lol. I have the BEST kids!!! Love them. That was an amazing list of 15 things… especially for kids ages 9 and under to come up with. I am so proud!